I feel very uneasy with this. Women have fought hard for decades to not been seen as sexual objects. We work hard to be taken seriously. And then this happens and all it does is degrade us. It turns us into sexual objects yet again and gives men the wrong message. Women are more unsafe than ever and this just makes things worse for us. I have absolutely nothing against sex work if it is what the worker wants to do to earn a living but in all honesty do people really want to sell their bodies for sex? Do they actually enjoy it and find it fulfilling?
Tbh I don’t enjoy my job or find it particularly fulfilling
Jobs don’t have to be enjoyable or fulfilling to be legitimate and I can guarantee she earns a lot more than I do
I think if sex work was safer and there was less stigma around it more people would do it
A lot of women make money on OF through solo stuff or filming themselves with their partners and really if there wasn’t a stigma more people would do that because it’s quite easy money
But that kind of thing can ruin a woman’s life (although it probably wouldn’t affect a man’s life much at all)
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TpVDU4l03r0 I found this video on the topic so good. Who are the men who are willingly queuing up to do this. And not caring that they’re the 999th person to have sex with a human being in one go?
In general I think that as long as it’s safe and consensual let sex workers crack on. What I don’t like is the attitude towards it. I don’t know the person mentioned above but I’d does sound like she needs to do a bit of work on herself to make sure she’s doing what she’s doing for the right reasons and not causing herself any trauma etc. Bonnie Blue however, what I have seen of her I think she’s vile. Her attitude and what she says is disgraceful and I’d be ashamed if she was my daughter/sister. She’s doing nothing to help women and the way they are looked upon and thought of as objects for men’s “use” and gratification. Saying if a woman doesn’t give a man sex when he wants it, he has the right to go elsewhere, what the actual F. Part of me thinks she’s doing it on purpose because she knows it’ll get views and engagement which equal £££ but again at what cost?
Why does she euphemistically say “I slept with 100 men”? There was no sleeping involved. It was sex. She “had sex with 100 men”. Is it a British thing? I’m not British so don’t use these terms but does it say something about how we feel about the act when we can’t even use the s-word? 🤔
I continue to think the narrative of positive and sex work is educated and white, so I also agree that none of this feels empowering. I am of the mindset that a lot of decisions women make that are excused as empowering are often still playing into the same patriarchal mindset, including cosmetic surgery and the overall unrealistic standards expected of women.
I think sex is more than a physical act. If it truly was just 'like nothing', she wouldn't be crying. I think it's easy to see the pain here and we want to just erase that in the name of "oh im just old fashioned", "Oh maybe I'm just being judgemental" I think deep down we don't judge her, we don't think less of her, we empathize with her and it's an empathy for a real pain of how she has hurt maybe not her body but her spirit, her mind and the future sex ( that i hope she has in more than a physical way) with a person that truly values and loves her.
These girls are gross and totally perpetuating women being seen as sexual objects to men. When we are STILL trying to fight for equality .. stupid girls like this and all the only fans ones are completely letting the team down. Get a proper job.
You know what I think is awesome.. a sex worker does something so crazy that all these grifters making think pieces about her life can make their bag too.. and I really think that’s the real empowerment ❤️
Did you even read the piece? Not to mention, I don't charge for my Substack, I haven't even turned my pledges on, so I'm actively choosing NOT to take people's money. I'm not going to be called a 'grifter' and take it
I totally understand how my comment came off this way- I was referring more so to the documentary and all these other things clearly monetizing on her as a tragic figure. I’m sorry this comment was meant to be tongue in cheek and sounds aggressive because I don’t know you!! Anyways I hope you can appreciate the engagement lol
I feel very uneasy with this. Women have fought hard for decades to not been seen as sexual objects. We work hard to be taken seriously. And then this happens and all it does is degrade us. It turns us into sexual objects yet again and gives men the wrong message. Women are more unsafe than ever and this just makes things worse for us. I have absolutely nothing against sex work if it is what the worker wants to do to earn a living but in all honesty do people really want to sell their bodies for sex? Do they actually enjoy it and find it fulfilling?
Tbh I don’t enjoy my job or find it particularly fulfilling
Jobs don’t have to be enjoyable or fulfilling to be legitimate and I can guarantee she earns a lot more than I do
I think if sex work was safer and there was less stigma around it more people would do it
A lot of women make money on OF through solo stuff or filming themselves with their partners and really if there wasn’t a stigma more people would do that because it’s quite easy money
But that kind of thing can ruin a woman’s life (although it probably wouldn’t affect a man’s life much at all)
I completely agree.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TpVDU4l03r0 I found this video on the topic so good. Who are the men who are willingly queuing up to do this. And not caring that they’re the 999th person to have sex with a human being in one go?
In general I think that as long as it’s safe and consensual let sex workers crack on. What I don’t like is the attitude towards it. I don’t know the person mentioned above but I’d does sound like she needs to do a bit of work on herself to make sure she’s doing what she’s doing for the right reasons and not causing herself any trauma etc. Bonnie Blue however, what I have seen of her I think she’s vile. Her attitude and what she says is disgraceful and I’d be ashamed if she was my daughter/sister. She’s doing nothing to help women and the way they are looked upon and thought of as objects for men’s “use” and gratification. Saying if a woman doesn’t give a man sex when he wants it, he has the right to go elsewhere, what the actual F. Part of me thinks she’s doing it on purpose because she knows it’ll get views and engagement which equal £££ but again at what cost?
i wrote a lil piece on it too if you want to give it a go
https://open.substack.com/pub/midnightmunchies/p/notes-on-the-algorithmic-body?utm_source=app-post-stats-page&r=22k3m0&utm_medium=ios
Why does she euphemistically say “I slept with 100 men”? There was no sleeping involved. It was sex. She “had sex with 100 men”. Is it a British thing? I’m not British so don’t use these terms but does it say something about how we feel about the act when we can’t even use the s-word? 🤔
In the UK saying ‘slept with’ is synonymous with ‘had sex with’ probably just UK slang I guess
Slept with has been a slag for sex for a really long time in the USA
I continue to think the narrative of positive and sex work is educated and white, so I also agree that none of this feels empowering. I am of the mindset that a lot of decisions women make that are excused as empowering are often still playing into the same patriarchal mindset, including cosmetic surgery and the overall unrealistic standards expected of women.
Is selling porn to children empowering? Amazing how many people who do this are praised publicly.
I think sex is more than a physical act. If it truly was just 'like nothing', she wouldn't be crying. I think it's easy to see the pain here and we want to just erase that in the name of "oh im just old fashioned", "Oh maybe I'm just being judgemental" I think deep down we don't judge her, we don't think less of her, we empathize with her and it's an empathy for a real pain of how she has hurt maybe not her body but her spirit, her mind and the future sex ( that i hope she has in more than a physical way) with a person that truly values and loves her.
These girls are gross and totally perpetuating women being seen as sexual objects to men. When we are STILL trying to fight for equality .. stupid girls like this and all the only fans ones are completely letting the team down. Get a proper job.
You know what I think is awesome.. a sex worker does something so crazy that all these grifters making think pieces about her life can make their bag too.. and I really think that’s the real empowerment ❤️
Did you even read the piece? Not to mention, I don't charge for my Substack, I haven't even turned my pledges on, so I'm actively choosing NOT to take people's money. I'm not going to be called a 'grifter' and take it
I totally understand how my comment came off this way- I was referring more so to the documentary and all these other things clearly monetizing on her as a tragic figure. I’m sorry this comment was meant to be tongue in cheek and sounds aggressive because I don’t know you!! Anyways I hope you can appreciate the engagement lol
Oh god, I watched the documentary last night. She seemed so shaken up at the end. :( Found it quite hard watching.