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JULIA P's avatar

Congratulations! I’m nearly 55 and single. I don’t want anyone to look back at their 30’s with regret in the way I do. I was waiting for “it all” to happen to me. When I hit 40 and went away alone to “celebrate”, I realised I needed to be proactive and take some risks. What’s the worst that can happen?! I’m now living my best second act!

I’m nourished like you by my amazing nieces and nephews and absolutely know they feel the same way too.

Enjoy your new home and in making it your safe comfy space.

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Lee's avatar

Well done you. It’s mental that things are still thought of this way and people are judged and seen as weird or different.

I’m a smidge older than you and I live with my mum. She only works part time and when she got divorced she couldn’t afford the mortgage on her own so I joined her on it. I’m also single with no kids and the way I get interrogated and probably gossiped about and called all sorts is wild.

If you’re not my friend then you don’t k ow anything about my life to be so judgemental and even my friends don’t know everything so as with a lot of other things, if it doesn’t affect your life and it’s not hurting you, why do you care so much? Everyone just needs to chill out and focus on their own lives.

Super happy for you though. I would like my own home but it’s not so bad being with mum and the dog.

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Hilary's avatar

You’re not a failure, period, end of story. Neither is someone who hasn’t achieved what you have. You are a work in progress, as we all hopefully are. We all have more learning and growing and wins in our future. Comparison is the thief, of joy some wise person said that. Also, a reality check - London is one of the most expensive cities in the world and you own a home and you’re not even middle age! Even measured against unfair standards, that is impressive. Now go forth and freeze your eggs and enjoy where you are now because you’re amazing.

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The Hopeful Hun's avatar

Congrats!! I wrote a piece about how we don’t celebrate enough non-traditional milestones, but thinking about hitting trad ones later in life is so valid.

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Lucy Partington's avatar

Proud of you LC man

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Camilla Craven's avatar

Congratulations on owning a home! You’ve worked so hard to get there, enjoy every moment xx

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Loretta's avatar

It sounds to me like you’re doing fine. Isn’t it time that we stop comparing ourselves to others when their lives are theirs, and our lives are our own? Apples and oranges 🤷🏼‍♀️

You’re winning! Huge congrats on the new house!

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C___B's avatar

🎉 congratulations .keep enjoying it day to day 😁

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Aisling M Keenan's avatar

HUGE congratulations! Becoming a home owner is NOT easy <3 And I find it totally bizarre that certain 'milestones' are still regarded with such reverence, when what the F do they mean anyway? Do they guarantee happiness? Absolutely not. Do they make you feel 'complete'? Hell no. We're all just chipping away, trying to chase contentment. And you're killing it!

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Megan Bramley's avatar

Huge congratulations!! I'm about to turn 38 and not a homeowner yet (or baby mamma). The cost of living in the south, plus all the ups and downs of life make it so hard to get on the property ladder. Also, ladder is such an outdated term. I imagine I'll buy a house (on track for next year), and that will be it longterm. No time for the snakes and ladder part! Congratulations on your new home, enjoy the decorating and all the little bits. Soak it all up and remember to give yourself a huge pat on the back, you did it!

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